Monday, September 12, 2011

The Talk

My hubby and I did finally sit down and talk about our finances and health. I explained all my fears and unfortunately being the crybaby that I am, I cried. I backed up all my fears with solid reasons. He said he has noticed some of the problems with his health because he is just continuing to gain weight and is always crashing after junk food indulgences. He has agreed to eat whatever I make and take to work what I make for myself. He says he will try it for a while to see how it goes. Today he took the grilled chicken and steamed veggies that I made last night to his first job. For his second job he took what I made for dinner: steamed rice and grilled pork. I haven't purchased any junk food other than the baked chips that I have always bought. The snacks that he now takes includes baby carrots, kiwi, strawberries, bananas, peaches, and cheese cubes.

I added up all the purchases that he has made on junk food and he was surprised to see that he spent over $10 in less than 8 hours on junk food simply because he was bored. He doesn't use his debit card unless he talks to me and the same goes for me. He is much more aware of our spending. He admitted that he has no idea how much our bills are or even when they are due. We sat down for over 2 hours and went over all the bills and the budget. He was shocked to see that we have so much debt. We went through the bible to see what it says about money and debt. We are both now working on the same bible study we downloaded to our iphones to reconnect with each other and God.

This is still a new change so we will have to see how everything goes. I'm hoping for the best. So far we havent put anything on our debit cards without clearing the purchase with each other. He even became upset with me today when we were talking about lunch and I mentioned that I had subway. He said we didn't talk about that purchase and I wasted the lunch that I packed myself He forgot that today a medical rep at work was paying for my lunch and that I planned to take that packed lunch on Tuesday. I'm glad he is paying attention now!!

I'll keep the updates coming. Now it's time for some NFL!!!!!


  1. Good job sob sister. Communication is the key even if you have to cry through it! Nice to hear from you. I was getting worried.

  2. oh girl, I SO know that conversation. Isn't it an amazing feeling when you're both on the same page. Keep talking, crying, praying and talking (yes, I said that twice) and it can only get better! Good for you!

  3. I'm glad you're both on the same page. He'll feel better when eating better food. It might take a week or so for him to work through the junk food cravings but eventually they pass.

    Today I was reading something and someone mentioned McDonald's and how they went out of their way to go there. And I found myself unable to connect to that feeling. And I'm a pretty big junk food person. I even made a place for McDonald's food in my weight loss plan. But it's been so long since I've been that I don't miss it right now and don't feel like I'll want it any time soon. I'm not saying never but certainly not tomorrow.

    You'll save a lot of money just by having both of you aware of it. And his health should improve.

  4. I'm so happy to read this!! Yay for the pathway to health! My favorite saying is "Your body is only your temple if you treat it as one!" ;)

  5. How are you doing?


  6. Thanks for all your encouraging words. We are trying. We are going to screw up a lot, but hopefully we'll learn and grow.